99 top secrets!

1. Guys don't actually look after good-looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.
2. Guys hate flirts.
3. A guy can like you for a minute, and then forget you afterwards.
4. When a guy says he doesn't understand you, it simply means you're not thinking the way he is.
5. "Are you doing something?" or "Have you eaten already?" are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering.
6. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.
7. When a guy really likes you, he'll disregard all your bad characteristics.
8. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.
9. Guys will do anything just to get the girl's attention.
10. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.
11. When guys want to meet your parents. Let them.
12. Guys want to tell you many things but they can't. And they sure have one habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is drinking!
13. Guys do cry!!!
14. Don't provoke the guy to heat up. Believe me. He will.
15. Guys can never dream and hope too much.
16. Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this makes it harder for them to accept their defeat.
17. When you touch a guy's heart, there's no turning back.
18. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!.. uh... never mind!" would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking.
19. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands.
20. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.
21. When a guy makes a prolonged "umm" or makes any excuses when you're asking him to do you a favor, he's actually saying that he doesn't like you and he can't lay down the card for you.
22. When a girl says "no", a guy hears it as "try again tomorrow."
23. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.
24. Guys hate gays!
25. Guys love their moms.
26. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.
27. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn't mean that the guy likes her.
28. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.
29. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.
30. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.
31. Like Eve, girls are guys' weaknesses.
32. Guys are very open about themselves.
33. It's good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don't let him wait that long.
34. No guy is bad when he is courting
35. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.
36. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they're not that much pretty.
37. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.
38. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice.
39. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.
40. A guy finds ways to keep you off from linking with someone else.
41. Guys love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts.
42. Guys try to find the stuffed toy a girl wants but would unluckily get the wrong one.
43. Guys virtually brag about anything.
44. Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.
45. Guys think too much.
46. Guys' fantasies are unlimited.
47. Girls' height doesn't really matter to a guy but her weight does!
48. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls!!!
49. When a girl makes the boy suffer during courtship, it would be hard for him to let go of that girl.
50. It's not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they broke up especially when they've been together for 3 years or more.
51. You have to tell a guy what you really want before getting involved with that guy.
52. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he's too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won't be matured and grow up.
53. When an unlikable circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more than girls do. They could even hurt themselves physically.
54. Guys have strong passion to change but have weak will power.
55. Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed ****cats with their girlfriends.
56. When a guy pretends to be calm, check if he's sweating. You'll probably see that he is nervous.
57. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl. He really is.
58. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, “Please come and listen to me"
59. Guys don't really have final decisions.
60. When a guy loves you, bring out the best in him.
61. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him.
62. If a guy has been kept shut or silent, say something.
63. Guys believe that there's no such thing as love at first sight, but court the girls anyway and then realize at the end that he is wrong.
64. Guys like femininity not feebleness.
65. Guys don't like girls who punch harder than they do.
66. A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can never be sure unless the girl tells him.
67. A guy would waste his time over video games and basketball, the way a girl would do over her romance novels and make-ups.
68. Guys love girls who can cook or bake.
69. Guys like girls who are like their moms. No kidding!
70. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.
71. A guy's friend knows everything about him. Use this to your advantage.
72. Don't be a snob. Guys may easily give up on the first sign of rejection.
73. Don't be biased. Try loving a guy without prejudice and you'll be surprised.
74. Girls who bathe in their eau de perfumes do more repelling than attracting guys.
75. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls.
76. Guys don't comprehend the statement "Get lost" too well.
77. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions but still love them more.
78. When a guy gives a crooked or pretentious grin at your jokes, he finds them offending and he just tried to be polite.
79. Guys don't care about how shiny their shoes are unlike girls.
80. Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to know them, they'll realize they're wrong.
81. Any guy can handle his problems all by his own. He's just too stubborn to deal with it.
82. Guys find it so objectionable when a girl swears.
83. Guys' weakest point is at the knee.
84. When a problem arises, a guy usually keeps himself cool but is already thinking of a way out.
85. When a guy is conscious of his looks, it shows he is not good at fixing things.
86. When a guy looks at you, either he's amazed of you or he's criticizing you.
87. When you catch him cheating on you and he asks for a second chance, give it to him. But when you catch him again and he asks for another chance, ignore him.
88. If a guy lets you go, he really loves you.
89. If you have a boyfriend, and your boy best friend always glances at u and it obviously shows that he is jealous whenever you're with your boyfriend, all I can say is your boy best friend loves you more than your boyfriend does.
90. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.
91. You can tell if a guy is really hurt or in pain when he cries in front of you!
92. If a guy suddenly asks you for a date, ask him first why.
93. When a guy says he can't sleep if he doesn't hear your voice even just for one night, hang up. He also tells that to another girl. He only flatters you and sometimes makes fun of you.
94. You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes.
95. Guys seek for advice not from a guy but from a girl.
96. Girls are allowed to touch boys' things. Not their hair!
97. If a guy says you're beautiful, that guy likes you.
98. Guys hate girls who overreact.
99. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.

Menjadi atau mencari ?

Mencari Solehah atau Menjadi Soleh?

Saya sering membaca kisah kehidupan orang yang ingin menghabiskan zaman bujangnya, namun gagal meninggalkan kepompong kebujangannya itu oleh kerana dilanda masalah pilihan jodoh. Mereka mencuba sedaya upaya sehingga berhabis ratusan ringgit mengupah tok bomoh profesional berataraf antarabangsa namun jodoh tidak kunjung tiba.

Pada waktu itu mereka mula mempersoal hakikat takdir Allah. Saya bukanlah agen pencari jodoh untuk anda pada post kali ini, cuma ketika berada di tahun akhir pengajian di sini saya selalu dipaparkan dengan masalah kegagalan mencari jodoh yang meragut ketenangan jiwa saya. Memang perasaan cinta agak sukar untuk diterjemahkan. Ada orang suka itu dan ini, pendek kata ada pelbagai rasa dalam satu masakan yang tak mampu diolah dalam bahasa kamus.

Susahnya mencari jodoh! Jika ditanya, anda mahu mencari jodoh yang bagaimana? Tentunya akan dijawab:

“Dia yang paling baik dalam akhlak dan budinya”

“Pandai jaga hati”

Baik dari segi itu dan ini. Sebenarnya jika anda cuba bertanya kepada penari-penari kelab dangdut, mereka juga akan menjawab dengan jawapan yang sama. Tiada wanita yang suka dibelasah oleh suaminya setiap hari walaupun suaminya itu bukan bekas ahli tinju yang mahir. Sudah fitrah manusia mencari yang elok dan tidak busuk. Cuma bayangan kefahaman mereka disebalik makna perkataan ‘baik’ itu yang berbeza.

Bagi mereka, orang yang selalu tersenyum itu adalah antara orang yang terbaik walaupun berasal dari kumpulan peninggal solat yang terkenal. Adapun kebaikan itu sebenarnya hanya terzahir bila kita mentaati perintah Allah. Bagaimanapun setiap kita mendamba cinta dari seorang kekasih yang sangat sempurna sifat keinsanannya.

Sifat sempurna yang mampu menutup lubang-lubang kecacatan walaupun setengah meter. Banyak sekali mereka yang telah lanjut usia gagal untuk mendirikan rumah tangga kerana memikirkan perkara ini. Yang ada di hati mereka:

“Betulkah dia ini baik atau sekadar berlakon.”

“Ooh mungkin dia cuba bantu aku sebab hendak mengambil hati.”

“Emm pakai tudung dan cuba-cuba buat solehah agaknya itu.”

Akhirnya, semua sifat orang habis diselidiki tanpa memikirkan sifat diri sendiri. Kita yang tidak punya sifat dan perwatakan yang 'baik' cuba untuk menilik mereka yang 'paling baik' untuk dijadikan pasangan hidup. Seboleh mungkin kita mahukan seseorang yang punya sifat seperti malaikat. Sedangkan kita antara orang yang selalu bermuamalah dengan syaitan setiap hari untuk melakukan maksiat. Ini tidak adil! Bagaimana sifat syaitan dan malaikat boleh bersatu?

Akhirnya setiap detik berganti masa yang lama tidak juga mendapat pasangan yang secucuk. Lamunan untuk mendapat itu dan ini tidak terzahir di depan mata oleh kerana sentiasa melihat yang negatif pada orang lain. Jadilah yang soleh, anda akan mendapat yang solehah! Cuba selidiki diri sebelum mencari orang yang kita bayangkan sifatnya dibenak kita. Adakah sifat yang berada dibenak sendiri itu, wujud dalam diri kita?

Atau dalam erti kata yang lain, jika ingin mendapatkan seorang yang solehah, maka kita juga perlulah menjadi yang soleh. Kalau ingin mendapat jodoh yang soleh, kita perlulah solehah. Dari sini kita dapat fahami bahawa menjadi sesuatu itu lebih mudah dari mencari sesuatu. Kita setia mencari pasangan yang berperwatakan seorang yang soleh dan solehah, sepatutnya kita sendiri perlu punya perwatakan itu.

Janganlah anda menyalah orang lain jika pinangan anda ditolak. Siapakah yang ingin mendapat pasangan punya 'kakinya berbotol' dan peninggal setia solat fardhu? Sememangnya dijanjikan Allah setiap yang baik itu kepunyaan yang baik. Dan yang buruk itu akan mendapat yang buruk. Penzina yang setiap saat bergelumang dengan dosa tidak akan mampu untuk mendapat pasangan seorang lelaki yang soleh.

Ini adalah realiti. “Jangan cuba masuk ke dalam istana untuk bertemu dengan puteri raja dalam keadaan pakaian anda compang camping”. Oleh itu jadilah yang terbaik untuk diri sendiri selain ingin menjadikan orang lain sebagai yang terbaik untuk diri kita. Belajarlah menjadi sifat orang yang kita ingini. Kelak kita sebenarnya yang akan dicari. Bukan kita yang mencari.

Maskara ku !~

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